• Why does my mom want to control my life?

    so I am 21 and finished my Nursing school I went on a student loan to pay it. I told my mom I am going to move out because I have no freedom she keeps asking me to do stuff for her, come home at a certain time, and she says if I don't do that then I have to pay her rent so I said if you're going to do that... show more
    so I am 21 and finished my Nursing school I went on a student loan to pay it. I told my mom I am going to move out because I have no freedom she keeps asking me to do stuff for her, come home at a certain time, and she says if I don't do that then I have to pay her rent so I said if you're going to do that I am going to move out then days later she tells me not to move out and that I should save up my money, This is kind of getting frustrating for me because it happens every other week. she had her 50th birthday and I didn't even bother showing up because of the way she is treating me. IDC if its your birthday you don't treat people like that. My aunt recently called me and said I should talk to my mom and not move out. Honestly I am 21 whats the use? I can move in with my friend and split the rent cost. I plan on moving out when she is at work so she does not know. My sister is trying to get us to reconcile. My aunt also told me that my mom talks to her about me all the time and that she is proud. Honestly I don't care I am not worried about being proud I need to get away from that miserable life at home.
    9 answers · Family · 2 days ago
  • If a 40 year old man dates an immature 21 year old girl who looks 13-14 is he a closet pedophile?

    She is incredibly immature. She cannot spell to save her life and she is from the suburbs, lives in her parents nice home yet she talks in slang terms. Her grammar is awful and she talks like she is in a gang despite living in an affluent neigborhood with her 2 married parents who dote on her. She complains that... show more
    She is incredibly immature. She cannot spell to save her life and she is from the suburbs, lives in her parents nice home yet she talks in slang terms. Her grammar is awful and she talks like she is in a gang despite living in an affluent neigborhood with her 2 married parents who dote on her. She complains that life is too hard and she shouldn't have to do her own laundry or work part time while in college. She is obsessed with memes and facebook and writing long rants about how life is so unfair and she has the hardest life of anyone she knows. The girl is spoiled rotten, her parents baby her and gave her a car, free rent, free college. All she has to do is pay for her car insurance and her food and she thinks its the end of the world. She looks like she is 14 years old at the very oldest. She listens to trap music and the horrible artists that do nothing but swear and say words that rhyme and she is the type that makes snapchat vidoes of her making duckfaces with those songs playing in background. A typical phrase for her is something like "im so sick of life lol, when ur parents tell you have to pay insurance, now wonder people drink or commit suicide, i work just to hand my money to bills, thank god for weed and beer, ugggh" To reiterate she looks 14, she could pass for an 8th grader, she's 4'11 and wears childish clothes as well
    10 answers · Family · 1 day ago
  • My brother in-law is a lazy P.o.s what do I do?

    Best answer: The brother in law is a mommy's boy and his mother has created the monster he is today. She allows him to act like he's 12 years old... HER fault!

    How do you deal with it? You don't. You ignore and avoid and go about your own life
    Best answer: The brother in law is a mommy's boy and his mother has created the monster he is today. She allows him to act like he's 12 years old... HER fault!

    How do you deal with it? You don't. You ignore and avoid and go about your own life
    8 answers · Family · 3 days ago
  • Would you ever cheat on someone?

    Best answer: No. Because I wouldn't want to be cheated on myself.
    Best answer: No. Because I wouldn't want to be cheated on myself.
    57 answers · Singles & Dating · 1 day ago
  • Can a guy think of a girl alot and not text/call her?

    What are the reasons
    What are the reasons
    25 answers · Singles & Dating · 21 hours ago
  • Losing Virginity/Girl?

    Okay so I’m an 18 year old girl who’s still a Virgin and has a boyfriend. I was ready a year ago..but he wasn’t so we waited, but we had done everything else. Easily fit 2 fingers, 3 hurt But 2 was very comfortable. I have also used toys, quite a bit actually, but none life size. So we ended up trying. I was... show more
    Okay so I’m an 18 year old girl who’s still a Virgin and has a boyfriend. I was ready a year ago..but he wasn’t so we waited, but we had done everything else. Easily fit 2 fingers, 3 hurt But 2 was very comfortable. I have also used toys, quite a bit actually, but none life size. So we ended up trying. I was comfortable, actually not nervous at all, but when he went in it hurt REALLY bad. I have a high enough pain tolerance to get tattooed for 6 hours straight on my leg but this was bad. It felt like I was getting ripped open. So I’m curious as to the problem. I was wet but he got super excited and stuck it in early lmao, and he was wearing a condom, so was it because it wasn’t wet enough and dry latex hurts or am I just too tight? We had been messing around for a good year and I’d be using things on myself to put on shows for him. So anyway he got a good 3 inches in and I had to ask him to stop, I’m actually afraid to go again. Should I just use lube/more foreplay or spend more time trying to stretch it out? Thanks hahah please serious answers
    25 answers · Singles & Dating · 1 day ago
  • Is it wrong to do this to my husband?

    Sometimes I slip tablets into my husband's coffee or tea to help stimulate him to have sex with me. Sometimes he's too tired or never aroused We had a dry spell where we would have sex once a month. Now with using the tablets we have sex 3-5 days a week. One of my girlfriend's suggested this and I... show more
    Sometimes I slip tablets into my husband's coffee or tea to help stimulate him to have sex with me. Sometimes he's too tired or never aroused We had a dry spell where we would have sex once a month. Now with using the tablets we have sex 3-5 days a week. One of my girlfriend's suggested this and I feel good about it. But another friend of mine said its immoral and said I should divorce him for not naturally being able to have sex as much as I desire. Am I horrible wife?
    44 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago
  • Should I tell my girlfriend that I have a daughter?

    I had a daughter with a woman I met when I was studying in Germany. She's 5 and she lives with her mother. I visit her a couple of times every year. I haven't told my girlfriend because the girl lives far away and she will probably never meet her. Besides, I want to open a new chapter in my life. The past... show more
    I had a daughter with a woman I met when I was studying in Germany. She's 5 and she lives with her mother. I visit her a couple of times every year. I haven't told my girlfriend because the girl lives far away and she will probably never meet her. Besides, I want to open a new chapter in my life. The past is the past.
    42 answers · Family · 2 days ago
  • Husband wants to charge my parents for staying in our house?

    So my parents are coming to stay with us for a week next month since we moved to a different state and don't get to see them often. My husband has been dreading this for awhile. He doesn't like them and they don't like him that much. They weren't enthusiastic with me marrying him because he... show more
    So my parents are coming to stay with us for a week next month since we moved to a different state and don't get to see them often. My husband has been dreading this for awhile. He doesn't like them and they don't like him that much. They weren't enthusiastic with me marrying him because he doesn't have a standard job (flipping real estate) and that he smokes weed (we now live in a legal state). My husband has told me he plans on calling them and telling them he will charge them $100 a night to stay at our house. He thinks that they shouldn't be allowed to be in our house without compensation. I don't want him to do this as these are my parents and they don't have much money. Most hotels in our area are more than $100 except bad motels. What should I do?
    29 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago
  • My boyfrnd of 4 years says he wants to move together first before marriage, but im 4mths pregnant and want marriege before the baby. Advise?

    Best answer: Whelp, looks as though you guys don't have the same goals in life and have reached an impasse. Honestly, neither of you are "wrong" here. It's not unreasonable of him to want to move in with you and see how things go before he makes the commitment of marriage, and it's not wrong of you to... show more
    Best answer: Whelp, looks as though you guys don't have the same goals in life and have reached an impasse.

    Honestly, neither of you are "wrong" here. It's not unreasonable of him to want to move in with you and see how things go before he makes the commitment of marriage, and it's not wrong of you to feel that after 4-5 years he ought to know for sure by now if you're marriage material or not. (Although it's one thing to say "We've been together almost five years, what's he waiting for???" when you're 27, and quite another when you're 19. How old are you guys?)

    But:

    "Im over there everyday cleaning doing laundy we making love its basically like I live there but he says its not how it would be if we actually atayed under one roof."

    Here's your answer, dear. You've already given him the benefits of a Wifey without him having to do the work to commit to you as a wife. Why buy the cow when you're already giving him the milk for free?

    Forget about a marriage and a wedding for now. Concentrate on your health and your baby's arrival, and maybe start looking into lawyers to get your legal ducks in a row so that you know he'll pay child support/etc. if necessary. Because, like you said, if 4 years and a pregnancy haven't lit a fire under his butt to propose to you by now, then it probably ain't gonna happen.
    28 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 1 day ago
  • The best way to respond to an insulting wife?

    A lot of people know about my struggles with my wife. Perhaps the worst of it are the insults that affect my self esteem. Comments such as stupid, idiot and useless. I have to do my best to try and be happy with life but it is very hard sometimes. I read a website that said the best way to deal with an insulting... show more
    A lot of people know about my struggles with my wife. Perhaps the worst of it are the insults that affect my self esteem. Comments such as stupid, idiot and useless. I have to do my best to try and be happy with life but it is very hard sometimes. I read a website that said the best way to deal with an insulting wife is to ignore the comments and carry on as normal. Because apparently a wife is so upset subconsciously that they need to lash out and drag the husband down until he is so unhappy that he gives her an easy reason to leave. Now that might be well and good, but I really don't think it will assist in behaviour changes. Yes behaviour change can only come about from the person doing the wrong thing. Also, I feel like it's a bad example for my son. He is too young to understand but what happens when he is older and he sees his mother calling his father stupid and dumb? I might end up with a son that doesn't respect me and joins in calling me stupid. I don't expect my wife to change any time soon. I can try to ignore the nasty comments. But I need something to change :(
    18 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 11 hours ago
  • Should a wife who Works Full Time, Have to do household chores when the husband does not work?

    Now let me start off with before this year My husband held a full time job, where after our child was born he supported me for three years; until he has shoulder surgery and get a part time job. after his recovery he return to his job and I return to my part time. He however grew tired of his workplace and the fact... show more
    Now let me start off with before this year My husband held a full time job, where after our child was born he supported me for three years; until he has shoulder surgery and get a part time job. after his recovery he return to his job and I return to my part time. He however grew tired of his workplace and the fact he never had time to play games,or attend tournaments for.40k. He then asked me to find a full time Job so.he could leave his job. I did, however over an.hour so we sold our home, to help my now homeless parents buy a home.He Did Leave his Job.He gets to attend every 40k event and gaming event he wants too now that his time his free. It worked for a.few months until our vehicle had broken down .He then stated he wants $500 from each of my paycheck to put twords repairs and afterwards he will then put it in savings. He has slipped up.a few times.claiming he is so frustrated with not having his own money. So I assume the $500 is really so he can have money. That leaves me with Bill money and grocery money by the end of it all.Now flash forward to recent times, I just took on a new job paying $2 more then the previous one. it'll be nice to get some help around the house. then proceeded to set rules that I and our daughter must follow. He is sick of being the only person doing work around the house, That it's always him, and everyone is lazy.Anyway tho I work full time to support him should I be the one to take over household chores, while he works Outside?
    22 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 1 day ago
  • Financial imbalance in marriage, what do do?

    My husband and I have been together for 6 years, we don't have a kid yet but planning to have one very soon. Our relationship has up and downs just like others, we love each other but lately I've been feeling a lot stress from work and life in general. My husband lost his job 2 years ago, ever since... show more
    My husband and I have been together for 6 years, we don't have a kid yet but planning to have one very soon. Our relationship has up and downs just like others, we love each other but lately I've been feeling a lot stress from work and life in general. My husband lost his job 2 years ago, ever since I've been supporting us financially, lucky enough I got a well paid job. I'm nearly 10 years younger than him, it's a bit tough that I have to be the one supporting everything financially for two. I feel I'm losing my freedom because I'm working too hard, no weekend or holiday is normal for me, I'm doing two jobs to keep us going. He's trying his best I know, but definitely not in the right position to earn enough money to support the family. I understand once you're married, everything should be shared equally. Sadly my family and I have always been the weather part, now I'm reaching to a point that I'm tired of paying for two, I know this can be very selfish thinking. That if I was single, or with someone else who is in better financial situation, I could live with a lot more freedom in life. Now I'm looking after two. once we have a baby, I have to look after 3. I'm only 30, I don't want my life get stuck like this, am I being too selfish feeling that I shouldn't pay for two in a relationship?
    16 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 11 hours ago
  • Is lusting over your child sexual abuse?

    my stepdad lusts over me. no denying it. he has never touched me, besides the odd *** slap. whenever he hugs me he puts his hands under the bottom of my shirt, but he’s been doing that since i was 9. i’m 16 now. he makes jokes about us sleeping together and him leaving my mom for me, but that is just our family’s... show more
    my stepdad lusts over me. no denying it. he has never touched me, besides the odd *** slap. whenever he hugs me he puts his hands under the bottom of my shirt, but he’s been doing that since i was 9. i’m 16 now. he makes jokes about us sleeping together and him leaving my mom for me, but that is just our family’s sense of humour. i will repeat myself, he has never touched me. the eyes he looks at me with are not the eyes of a father. i am 16, he is almost 45. is this considered sexual abuse? i understand it’s wrong, but i don’t want to label my situation wrong
    10 answers · Family · 19 hours ago
  • How to gain my wife's trust post domestic abuse?

    To make a long story short, i hit my wife several times over the course of two months. I had personal issues she wasnt aware of and it got worse when her parents got into a conflict with me etc. So now she's gone for her own safety and she is in alot of emotional pain. We talk for hours each day on the phone... show more
    To make a long story short, i hit my wife several times over the course of two months. I had personal issues she wasnt aware of and it got worse when her parents got into a conflict with me etc. So now she's gone for her own safety and she is in alot of emotional pain. We talk for hours each day on the phone but she is scared of me. She doesnt want to see me or be in a room alone with me ( thats how serious things are ). I got some treatment and im following her instructions on how to spend my time alone constructivly etc. Is there anything i can do to gain her trust again ? Time is running and we miss alot of the things we did together. I dont need any advice or criticisim about me; just advise on how i can gain her trust..i know im a monster cause ive been made this way by my alcoholic father abusing me and beating me as a kid and juvenile.
    24 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago